I didn’t know I was pretty
I have never been told I was pretty until I moved to this country. Back home, no one ever called me ‘pretty’ which I was completely fine as I was one of those people who believed I was unpretty.
To me, the definition of being pretty always had to do with being physically attractive and having a good-looking face. I always thought and believed into the idea that I didn’t have those qualities and always felt I was the unattractive one who could never be pretty.
Spoiler alert — I have not done any changes to my face or body. I am still the same person but with a different mindset.
So, I have learned that you will not need no one’s confirmation or any external validation to feel pretty. You feel most beautiful when are comfortable in your own skin and happy with yourself. To look pretty, you have to feel pretty, feel confident and comfortable being who you are and how you look like.
Only thing that matters is “do you like what you look in the mirror?”. You have to. If not, and maybe if there is something you need to change, feel free to do so. Just don’t change anything just because someone told you so.
I started hearing words from people lately like “You are pretty”, “You look great”, “You look gorgeous”, “You are a young beautiful lady” which are totally unfamiliar words that I haven’t never been told. At first, I was like “Thanks!? Really? Me? [I know you’re lying]”. After a while, I began to believe those words and started saying “Thanks”.
As I mentioned above, I am still the same person. However, I changed the way I see myself. I changed my perspective on how I feel about myself. There were tons of times I didn’t like myself when I looked in the mirror. So, I decided to make some changes in order to look good for myself. I need to like myself first. I need to love and respect myself first. Then other people will be able to treat the same way.
This means if I feel super insecure about how I look and always feel unconfident and keep saying “I am not good enough”, I am giving people a signal and permission to treat me with disrespect. So, it all starts within. People will respect when you start respecting yourself.
To sum up, I would say it will all start with a self-respect and self-love. When you start loving and taking care of yourself, you will only start to accept people who treat you right. With respect and love.
It is universal truth how pretty (natural or not) people get treated much better. They have more opportunities just because they are attractive. It is the truth. Get used to it. But, then what? It is not about becoming the prettiest. It is about building yourself and becoming the person you like. Make sure you like yourself before trying to be liked by others.
My confidence has been boosted since I moved to this country after hearing those words like “You are cute”. Thanks to those people who complimented me, I started to believe “Oh wait, I do look good. I have a great body. I look great” and have a confidence in me.
I truly believe it also started happening when I started taking care of myself and having more self-respect.
