My recent discoveries on relationships

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Just wanted to reflect on what I have learned and discovered about relationships in general lately.

• Most people don’t express their genuine intentions. And it makes me annoyed. Maybe you don’t want to hurt their feelings. But hey, you hurt them even more by ghosting and disappearing without a single word. We need explanations, don’t be a coward!
• Relationships require a mutual effort. Whether it be romantic, friendship, family, team, or co-worker, regardless of what relationship, it does need an effort. If you want to see this relationship going somewhere, do some extra work.
• Some people use others in order to forget/get over or even build trust between significant other. And it is not nice. Really not. Don’t ever become someone’s replacement or an option. No one deserves to be treated as an option.
• Many and many people say things they don’t mean. Okay, please. This one really makes me sick. When you can’t even call and check on that friend of yours, don’t even bother saying “I’ll be here, and let me know if you need anything”. Just a single phone call or text shows how much you care. Not your fake “I got you”. So, stop saying things you don’t really mean. That’s so mean.
• Some people will love you just the way you are while others won’t still change the way how they look even after you change yourself. And that’s okay. Change only for yourself. Not for others. When you start doing good and looking good, you start to attract good.
• It’s damn hard to make friends as an adult. Put your fake politeness aside and show me your true self.
• Many people don’t like confrontation but enjoy wasting their time on things that aren’t necessary.
• Believe in your intuition. It is what it is. Don’t give people a second chance. Not everyone has a pure heart just like you do. Move on.
• There is nothing wrong with you. It is just you haven’t met the people who actually deserve you.
• Don’t believe in what they have to say. Believe in their actions.
• Eyes don’t lie.
• Give a favor by not wasting people’s time and get clear on what you want.
• Constant connection is not necessary to prove your relationship (friendship) is alive.
• Have no expectations so you prevent yourself from getting hurt.

These are some discoveries, and lessons...whatever they are that I learned hard way. Please be kind to each other. Don’t waste each other’s time. Don’t hurt them and be genuine about your feelings. Thank you (lol).

Have a good new week!

xo,
Oko